Single 26 y/o female.

I dont believe in “the One.” While I do feel that God has told me specific things about my husband (whoever he may be), God already knows who I am going to choose. God gave us free will. We can choose who we want to spend our life with. If there was only one person for everyone, what happens if that “one” walks away from God? Does that mean I have to marry a man that will not be on the same wave link with me when it comes to serving God? No way! What about people whose spouses die at a young age. Should they never get married again because thier “one” died? No. All I know is God is faithful.

I don’t believe in the One as some do , that is they are looking for a soulmate, the only one that can complete them. I do however, believe that I will only marry one person out of a number of possible candidates. I believe God will be the deciding factor in our union and He will help us to stay together until death do us part if we purpose to keep HIm at the center of our realatioship. But I know that people loose spouse all the time and remarry and they are just as blessed in the second marriage as they were in the first. So in that case there was more than just one. So I don’t get caught up in the drama of possibly missing him, I just trust God to bring the man I need into my life when I need him. In the meantime I purpose to enjoy my male friendships for what they are without stressing.

But babe, I thought you said I was the one…. :O!!!

there is only “One” who would put up with all my shenanigans.

guess that answers That question, huh?

I was just thinking through my thoughts on the issue, and then realized that Joel wrote my view already.

So, my opinion in short: “yes, & amen” – to what Joel said.

Here’s my view: I don’t know, and it doesn’t really matter that much. It’s like the theological debate, “Does God choose us, or do we choose Him?” What matters is that if we know Him, then we know Him deeply, intimately and with our whole heart. Who cares how we got there?

So if I end up married to someone someday, why worry about if she was/is “the One” or not? I don’t see the need. If there is a “One,” then I’ll be married to her. If there isn’t a “One,” then I’ll be married to an amazing woman anyway.

I don’t believe in “the one”, but that doesn’t negate my belief in God’s devine hand in couples finding one another. When I was single, He knew what I needed better than even I did, and that’s who he sent me at the right time. My husband is perfect for me, because he was given to me by God and because of his love for me–but he’s not perfect. Neither am I. That’s marriage in a nutshell for me.

BTW, I dated two men when younger that I both thought were the “one” at the time. In retrospect, I’m SO HAPPY I didn’t marry either of these men. I was thinking about butterflies in my stomach more than about what constitutes a good husband and father!

Not that you asked, but I think sometimes people get wrapped up in preconceived ideas about the kind of person they’ll marry. I think some things are vital: spiritual beliefs, character, maturity, loving nature, giving heart. Other things really don’t matter: career, education, appearance (beyond general attraction) income. So, that’s my two cents.

the older I get then more I do not believe in “THE one”. I think that relationships are all about choice. After all, Proverbs 18:22 states “he who FINDS a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord”. I’ve known several Christian men (who shall remain nameless) who were in pursuit of several different women (not at the same time) but who ended up marrying someone different than they had in mind. Now knowing these situations most of the women were not “feeling” the guy but I’d be willing to
bet that if the relationship hadn’t gotten broken off they probably would have gotten married.

God honors the marriage covenant so if that person wasn’t “the one”, they do become “the one” once that certificate is signed.